As a child I watched a lot of TV. From watching shows like I Love Lucy, The Dick Van Dyke Show, and Bewitched, I got the impression women who stayed at home with their children where boring busybodies. Woman who went out and worked where always so much more attractive and exciting.
Women are just as good as men, and just as important. I could do anything a man could do, and I have. I worked construction with my parents when I was young. I could lift heavy buckets. climb scaffold, and use a float to texture plaster that had been applied to the side of a building, among other things.
I later trained to be in IT. I can carry 23″ CRT monitors that weigh 50 to 60 pounds, and fix computer issues, as well if not better than my male co-workers.
But then one day, I found out I was going to have a baby. All my life I had planned to have my mother watch my child while I worked. It seemed like such a practical thing to do. This is what everyone else does, and this is just the way it is. “I’m in control of my life,” so I thought.
The time came when I gave birth to my son. I never knew I could love anyone so much. He was the most important thing in the world to me. The greatest joy I could possibly have in life was to stay with him. I wanted to teach him things and watch him grow, but I couldn’t because I couldn’t be there.
In working to achieve what most of us now think of as the American dream, I had put myself in a position where I couldn’t afford to quit my job. I had never planed to. All my life I had been sold this idea of how great it is to be a working woman (and mother) and I had bought it.
I had this revelation–what a stupid idea the whole thing really is.
There are exceptions to everything, but overall, no one can love a child as much as his mother. Daycare is not a wonderful thing, even if you have a relative to watch your child.
I started thinking - all this crap I had fed over the years was just that.
If women working and putting their children in daycare is such a great thing, why are test scores and reading scores dropping? Why is the crime rate going up? When I was a child a school shooting had not taken place. My father used to take guns to school so he could go target practicing afterward. No one was concerned if they saw a teenager walking down a hall carrying a gun.
I know most people will say, “things have always been this way,” or “that’s just the way things are.” I think that’s a bunch of crap. People need to wake up and realize how big of a snow job we’ve been dealt. One of the greatest books I’ve ever read was called The Booze Battle. (No I am not an alcoholic, but I have a relative who is.) The lesson I learned from that book is you first have to recognize there is a problem, and then you can fix it. That’s the key though. First you have to recognize there is a problem.
In the film/book Logan’s Run people have children, then hand them over to the government to be raised. I believe this film mimics what we are moving toward in our own lives.
The real discrimination against woman is undervaluing the critically important job women used to do. Women raised future members of society–the most important job of all. Women took care of the home and prepared nutritional meals. People where in better health. Obesity was not the problem it is today despite steak and potato dinners.
How can a woman work full time, take care of a house, take care of children, and still have time to be active in community, and politics. It is only fair when a woman brings in part of the household income, a man should help clean the house and cook the meals. This means men are being robbed of time as well.
What we really have is the corporations’ and government’s greatest dream. You have this overworked group of people who keep buying more stuff so they have to work more, pay more taxes and they are so busy they can’t really interfere with what the government and corporations are doing. Notice the mainstream media is always talking about consumer spending. They almost give you the idea it’s patriotic to spend everything you have, rather than saving it and paying down all your debts.
Women working has done a great deal to cover up the inflation tax. People don’t appear to notice, most women have to work now because the economy has gone down hill so bad.
After watching the documentary Century of Self (The history of public relations), I don’t really think this was much of an accident. This BBC documentary clearly explains one of the main objectives government and corporations had in the 20th Century was to control and manipulate the masses.
“Family Values” are critically important. Unfortunately I think radical conservative groups give “Family Values” a bad name. By grand standing and claiming to have an exclusive on family values, they make it sound like something other groups should be rebelling against. No one should be able to claim an exclusive on family values. Whether you are Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Sikh, Buddhist, Hindu, Atheist, or just a Secularist–no one should be able to claim an exclusive on family values. There’s nothing wrong with putting your family first.
I would like to recommend reading the book Take Back Your Time by John De Graaf. This book has been the greatest inspiration to me, on trying to put myself in a position where I actually can take back my time.
Recommended Reading
- Take Back Your Time by John De Graaf
- War On The Middle Class by Lou Dobbs
The Importance of Fathers
A woman shouldn’t be trying to raise a family alone. As Chris Rock said “You can drive a car with your feet if you want to–that doesn’t make it a good idea.” The critical role played by men is being downplayed. Children need fathers as role models, friends, protectors, and providers. I’ve lost track of how many disturbed and angry men I’ve known because their fathers weren’t there for them.
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